Many of my followers know that I am a mom of two little ones and that I often simply don’t have the time to be as creative or devoted to my art. And that is completely fine because right now, I am doing the most important job ever and that is raising my kids with lots of love and care.
On the other hand, of course, as an artist I do miss having unlimited time and not having to care about anything but my work. This is something probably every mother has to go trough no matter in what field work/passion lies.
The urge to express through art is as important (for me) as it is to eating and sleeping.
I am immensely proud, that the itch to do art is so permanent that I go to work as soon as my kids fall asleep. And sometimes I fall asleep with them as well because days can be though. But I pull through.
I just want to let those other moms or mothers to be (or wanting to be) to know that, yes there is time for yourself. It is less, much less than before. But the pressure of doing something in the free time you have, is intense. In a good way. This is how I personally managed to do my art within the 2 hours I have each night. Highly concentrated. And sometimes I don’t have time at all. (Because something like teething happens or so.)
„My focus has shifted when I became a mom. I do the best I can with the time I have available. And looking back onto my old life, it feels awfully wasteful.“
What I have learned whilst raising my kids in the past turbulent years is:
- Playing the piano and teaching my kids (because music is important)
- Art Projects don’t need to be super detailed and bound to rules in your head – they can be simply expressive when you paint with your kids. (Because being creative is the best and being allowed to make a mess with art is important)
- learning ballet because my eldest couldn’t go to classes during the pandemic so I learned it with lots of online training and we are now doing mini Kids friendly ballet classes I created at home and the youngest can’t wait for it to begin (Because ballet is a great workout and I wanted to shape up anyway :))
- Singing lots of songs with my kids – this was a hard one. I HATE singing because I am particularly bad at. (But I wanted to prove my kids that learning and getting better is possible if you work hard enough for it)
- Baking and cooking with two kids on the daily (Because nutrition and knowledge about housekeeping is never not important)
- That sometimes days are awful and nothing works like it should. And thats fine. (Because these days are spent cuddling and reading to your kids)
I hope I was able to inspire you all to do more or start something new. Even when you think it isn’t possible. Try it. It is you’re life, so do what you love. And becoming a parent isn’t a nail into the coffin of you’re life and career. Nothing has ever boosted me more to work harder and be a role model.
Take care you all!
Monia Baillieu is a professional illustrator and sculptor from northern Germany. Her illustrations are mostly eerie or haunted themed. Occasionally she creates some funny comics as well or ventures out into graphic novels. Sculptures are created with polymer clay and fit into the overall theme of her works.
For professionell requests or collaborations please check her portfolio and send an email to email@example.com